Marriages with unbelievers

The Scripture commands believers not to marry unbelievers, for it says: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).

Therefore, brothers and sisters who want to get married, do not seek you wife or your husband among the people of the world but among those who are not of this world, that is, the saints or the redeemed. Perhaps someone of you will say to me: ‘I am seeking a good unbelieving person and not a bad one!’ Do not deceive yourself, because even if an unbelieving person is sweet and affectionate to you, the fact still remains that there can be no spiritual communion between you who are a believer and him or her who is an unbelieving person, because you are spiritually alive while he or she is dead in his/her transgressions. You are under the power of God, while he or she is under the power of the devil. You want to serve righteousness but he or she wants to serve sin. And I could go on. Know this, that there are no good sinners, but only sinners.

Perhaps someone else will say: ‘Little by little I will win him or her to Christ!’. Do not deceive yourself either, because eventually the person who is under the power of Satan will overcome you and you will stray from the faith and thus you will give up meeting together with other believers. And you will regret bitterly leaning on your own understanding. Know this, that many believers said that before their marriage, but afterward they disappeared and they were not seen in the midst of the flock of the Lord any longer because they went on the mountains of unfaithfulness.

Young people, I say it again, see to it that you marry only a believer even if your community is a little community and you don’t have the possibility of meeting many young people like you, do not worry about that because God from the place of His dwelling looks on you and sees your need and at His appointed time He will cause you to meet the right man or the right woman, that is, the person God has appointed for you. Be patient and trust in the Lord with all your heart, do not lose heart. He is faithful and will turn your mourning into joy, and your wailing into dancing, but remember, at His appointed time.

“Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart” (Psalm 37:4), and: “Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass” (Psalm 37:5). Do not let these words depart from your eyes and your heart because in the saddest moments they will give you much joy and peace.

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