Not chastening one's children



There are many believers who, having been deceived by some who are wise according to the world but not according to God, refuse to rebuke severely or to beat their own children (according to the need, of course) when they disobey. For they say, ‘Our children also must have their own experiences’, ‘It is the Lord who will make them understand what is right and what is wrong’, ‘How can I beat the blood of my blood?’ etc.

Brothers, I exhort you not to be deceived by these words, rather expose them earnestly and destroy them because they openly oppose the Word of God which says: “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes” (Proverbs 13:24) and also: “Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell” (Proverbs 23:13-14), and again: “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying” (Proverbs 19:18).

Why is correction (not only the verbal correction but also the correction with the rod) necessary? Because Wisdom says: “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15).

Therefore, there is only one way to bring up one’s children well, that is, by correcting them. Let no one deceive you, because if you allow them to do whatever they like they will grow like brute beasts and they will be your grief and your shame.