Marriage

 

 

2. Why can’t I marry a girl who is of this world (that is, an unbelieving girl)?

 

 

 

Because if you marry a girl who is not a believer, you will put a yoke on your neck which will harm you, for Paul says to the saints of Corinth: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty” (2 Corinthians 6:14-18).

In other words, if you, who are a believer, marry an unbelieving woman, it will come to pass that you will fill yourself with troubles and afflictions because your wife will make every effort to dissuade you from loving and serving the Lord and thus this situation will eventually result either in a separation – because you will decide to remain faithful to the Lord at all costs and she will decide to leave you in order to go to live with somebody who doesn’t set his mind on things above – or, as it happens in most cases, in your backsliding because you will decide to please your unbelieving wife and thus you will go back to your wallowing in the worldly lusts (which are lusts of uncleanness) from which you were delivered by the grace of God. I would like to dwell upon this eventuality, because, as I said before, it is the one which occurs most of the times. You must bear in mind that it is very dangerous for a son of God to marry a woman who despises the Lord or serves the Lord only with her lips but her heart is far from God, instead of a woman who believes in the Lord and loves Him, because such a woman, being under the power of the devil, sets her mind on earthly things, and since the devil is her master and deceives her by his craftiness, she will be induced – even if unwittingly – to deceive her husband and to make him sin, and experience teaches us that she succeeds in deceiving him. The woman knows how to deceive man, she has been deceiving man for thousands of years. She began to deceive man in the Garden of Eden, and she has succeeded in deceiving man countless times ever since. That the woman is able to led astray a man, is demonstrated by the example of Solomon, who was wiser than any other man in his days, yet when Solomon was old his wives, who worshiped other gods, turned his heart after their gods and his heart was not loyal to the Lord as was the heart of his father David, and thus God became angry with Solomon (1 Kings 11:1-9). Therefore, don’t be deceived into thinking that you will eventually manage to win your wife to Christ, because it will happen just the opposite, that is, you will be led astray.

Therefore, if you are looking for a wife, I exhort you to look for her among the daughters of God, praying to the Lord (and even accompanying prayer with fasting) so that He might cause you to meet your bride. Instead, if you are engaged to a girl who belongs to the world, and you are still waiting for her conversion but you see that she is not interested in the Lord at all because she has told you or made you understand that you must choose between her and the Lord, then leave her immediately without thinking twice. You will never regret this decision; obviously, it will be painful, but God will eventually turn your pain to joy, this will happen when He causes you to meet the woman God has appointed for you.

 

 

 

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