Women

 

 

Women can dress how they like for God looks at the heart

 

 

 

Today most pastors allow women to dress how they like. That’s why many sisters wear miniskirts, trousers, slit skirts, close fitting dresses, transparent blouses, and low-necked blouses, costly clothing, shoes with stiletto heels, fishnet stockings, necklaces, earrings, rings, etc. In addition to this, they allow women to wear make up and to put on some lipstick, to have short hair (that is, to have their hair just as short as men), to have their hair dyed, etc.. The reason why these pastors allow women to do all these things is that they believe that unless Christian women dress and behave like the unbelieving women sinners cannot be won to Christ, that is to say, they will hinder unbelievers from turning to the Lord for unbelievers will never attend a worship service where they know women are dressed modestly with decency lest they feel uneasy in the place of worship!!! According to these pastors, their position is based on the Bible, for it is written that the Lord looks at the heart (cf. 1 Samuel 16:7).

 

Confutation

 

It’s time to raise one’s voice against these pastors who, through their smooth words and flattering speech, allow many Christian women to dress like prostitutes and seek to deceive those women who still have the sense of decency, who still dress modestly with decency, into thinking that they, through their modest appearance, are a hindrance to the evangelization of unbelieving people. So, I am going to refute this perverse teaching which is widely widespread among the brotherhood in the world.

Concerning the outward adornment of women, Paul says to Timothy: “I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God” (1 Timothy 2:9-10 – NIV), and Peter says to wives: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master” (1 Peter 3:3-6 – NIV). As for the words of Paul bear in mind that Paul said to Timothy: “… I am writing you these instructions so that, if I am delayed, you will know how people ought to conduct themselves in God’s household” (1 Timothy 3:15 – NIV); and as for the words of Peter bear in mind that Peter near the end of the epistle said: “…. This is the true grace of God. Stand fast in it” (1 Peter 5:12 – NIV). Therefore every Christian woman must not wear miniskirts, slit skirts and dresses, trousers (even the women’s trousers), transparent or close fitting blouses, low-necked blouses, etc. Neither must she wear golden jewelry on her neck or her wrists or on her fingers or on her ears; nor must she wear make up or put on lipstick. For all these things are not proper for a woman who professes godliness for they make a woman look provocative and seductive. Instead, she must dress with decency and modesty; she must put on good deeds; she must adorn her heart with the incorruptible ornament which consists of a gentle and quiet spirit.

However, those who hold the teaching ‘dress how you like,’ through their empty words, make the words of the apostles of no effect, saying that God said to the prophet Samuel that the Lord looks at the heart. So let me explain to you what God meant when He said to the prophet Samuel that He looks at the heart. As you know, God was grieved that He had made Saul king, for Saul had not kept His commandments, so He sent Samuel to Jesse of Bethlehem for He had chosen one of his sons to be king. However, when God commanded Samuel to go to Jesse, He did not tell him the name of the one Samuel had to anoint, for He said to Him: “Take a heifer with you and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what to do. You are to anoint for me the one I indicate” (1 Samuel 16:2-3 – NIV). Samuel went to Bethlehem, and invited Jesse and his sons to the sacrifice. When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord” (1 Samuel 16:6 – NIV). From the words of Samuel we learn that Eliab was a beautiful and tall man, that is to say, a man whose beauty and physical stature would strike anyone. However, God, knowing the thoughts of Samuel, said to him: “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7 – NKJV). Therefore God made it clear to Samuel that He, when He chooses someone to be king or prophet or something else, does not look at his outward beauty or at his physical stature, for it is men who look at these things and not God, for God looks at the heart of the person. So if a person’s heart is as God wants, He will appoint him king or prophet etc., but if it is not as God wants, he will be refused. Eliab was beautiful and tall, but God had refused him for his heart was not after God’s heart.

Therefore, the above mentioned words which God said to Samuel cannot be quoted in order to affirm that if a sister wears a miniskirt or a transparent blouse or a close fitting one or some expensive clothes or some golden jewelry God does not care about it at all. I ask you these questions, ‘If it were so, that is, as the rebels say, why then did the apostles teach that both the unmarried and the married women must adorn themselves modestly, with decency and propriety, and not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing? Do you not think that if God did not care about the outward adornment of women at all He would not have given these commandments through the apostles?

Moreover, those who affirm that the Lord looks at the heart forget that if on the one hand men cannot see inside a woman’s heart, on the other hand they can see her body (it should be said that they want to see her body); therefore, if a woman dresses indecently she will attract men’s attention through her provocative and indecent adornment and cause them to stumble. This is why she must keep the commandments of God given by the apostles, in order not to cause those men who look at her to stumble. Instead, many women, with the aid of many pastors who don’t know the Scriptures, want at all costs to cause men to stumble. The way many sisters dress, which is indecent, is no longer called an outrageous way of dressing, as it was called here in Italy, too, long time ago, but rather an efficacious means to attract the people of this world to the place of worship!! No doubt it is a means through which one can attract many men to the place of worship, but that’s a means used also by the managers of night clubs and cinemas and bathing establishments to attract men to those places! I wonder, ‘What else will these rebellious pastors do in order to attract souls to the place of worship?’

Brothers, know this, that this strategy, used by these pastors to induce people to come to the place of worship in order to hear the Gospel, is not from God. These pastors, who affirm these things, are not fishers of men but deceivers of men, just as many perverse people who live in this world. Peter says about the false teachers: “For when they speak great swelling words of emptiness, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through lewdness, the ones who have actually escaped from those who live in error” (2 Peter 2:18 – NKJV); this is what these idle talkers do by urging Christian women to wear provocative and costly clothes, they entice, by appealing to the lustful desires of sinful human nature, the ones who are just escaping from those who live in error! The worldly lusts have been transplanted into the Church by these pastors on the pretext that they are useful to win souls to Christ. What a deception! Instead of saying, ‘Let us love one another as Christ commanded us, so that the world may feel attracted to us seeing the love which we have for one another,’ or, ‘Let us desire earnestly spiritual gifts, so that the glorious manifestation of the Spirit may be seen among us, and sinners may recognize that God is truly among us, and they may feel attracted to us when they hear about the great things God works among us,’ many urge the Christian women not to dress the way women dressed in the past but to follow the fashion, lest the people of this world feel uneasy when they come to the place of worship and lest they go away without coming back. Tell me this, ‘Where does the Scripture say that the children of God must conform themselves to the worldly lusts, while sinners must not conform themselves to the holy ways of God?’ You dare say, ‘The people of this world might be scandalized by seeing women with long skirts, long sleeves, without make-up and jewelry!’ but I tell to you that women will scandalize unbelievers if they dress, or rather if they undress, as you tell them to do. Who has bewitched you? Repent and walk the old paths again, for the paths you are walking are crooked. I urge you not to tell those things to women.

 

Some words to women

 

Sisters in the Lord, know this, that since your body is the temple of God you are not allowed to adorn yourselves how you like, that is, like the world, for the temple of God is holy and you must glorify God in your body. You may ask me, ‘Do you mean then that if we dress like the world we will not glorify God in our body?’ Yes, that’s exactly what I mean. Why do I affirm this? Because the fashion of the world is perverse and leads you to break the Word of God.

The fashion of the world tends to masculinize women. Is it not true that a woman who wears trousers – whether blue jeans or slacks or pant suits - looks like a man? Whereas the Bible affirms that there must be a clear difference between men and women in their way of dressing, as it is written in the law: “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garments, for all who do so are an abomination to the Lord your God” (Deuteronomy 22:5 – NKJV). You may say to me, ‘That’s a verse of the law of Moses and we are not under the law but under grace!’ Well, have you never read that “the law is good if one uses it lawfully” (1 Timothy 1:8 – NKJV) for the law is made for whatever is contrary to the sound doctrine (cf. 1 Timothy 1:10)? Have you never noticed that Paul, who was under grace, used the law to confirm some New Testament principles? So, since I have quoted that verse of the law just to confirm a principle which is still valid under the New Testament, I have used the law lawfully. And consequently you’d better pay attention to what that verse of the law says concerning the way of dressing, for if you reject it you will provoke God to anger. So, sister in the Lord, do not wear trousers, for they make you look like a man. Make sure that what you wear identifies you as a female, and that men don’t need to look at the tempting zones of your body – which is something the devil wants men to do - to tell whether you are a male or female.

The fashion of the world tends to make a woman provocative and seductive, and thus it leads men to lust after her. In other words, the fashion of the world tends to cause men to stumble. Do you know what happens both in the mind and in the heart of a man when he looks at a woman who wears a miniskirt, or a slit skirt or a close fitting dress or a low-necked dress, or a transparent blouse, or tight trousers, or fishnet stockings etc.? He begins to lust after that woman. So these articles of clothing send sexual signals. Have you ever wondered why prostitutes wear the above mentioned articles of clothing? Because they want to allure men into a sexual relationship. Have you ever wondered why the adulteress dresses like a harlot? Because she wants to allure men into a sexual relationship. Listen to what Solomon said about the adulteress: “Then out came a woman to meet him [a youth who lacked judgement], dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent …. She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said: I have fellowship offerings at home; today I fulfilled my vows. So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with coloured linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. Come, let’s drink deep of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey. He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon. With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk ….” (Proverbs 7:10, 13-21 – NIV). As you can see, that married woman was dressed like a prostitute. Why? It is evident, because she wanted to seduce that young man so that he might lie with her, while her husband was not at home. That woman had a crafty heart and knew that a certain way of dressing would help her to seduce men, that’s why she dressed like a prostitute. Sisters in the Lord, you must understand that clothing is a language, and if you wear the above mentioned articles of clothing you will transmit the following message to those men who look at you: ‘I want you to look at my body and lust after me!’ So men will think that you are a loose woman, and think evil thoughts because of you, and some of them might make advances. In the light of this, therefore, by dressing like a prostitute – or indecently – you will cause men to stumble, while the Scripture says: “Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks, or the church of God ….” (1 Corinthians 10:32 – NIV). I warn you not to wear indecent articles of clothing, lest you cause men to stumble.

Let me tell you now a few things about make up, lipstick, jewelry, and shoes with stiletto heels: the purpose of all these things is to make you look provocative and seductive. So you must flee them also. If you still wear make up or lipstick or jewelry or shoes with stiletto heels, I urge you to stop wearing these things, for you are wasting your money and your time and by making up and putting on lipstick you are even damaging your skin. Remember that Jezebel, who was an evil woman, “painted her eyes” (2 Kings 9:30 – NIV); and that Sarah, who was a holy woman who trusted in God, did not wear any jewelry (cf. 1 Peter 3:3-6), even though she was the wife of Abraham, who was a rich man who had much gold. Furthermore, do not have your hair dyed; be content with the natural colour of your hair. Neither should you have short hair, for the Scripture says that “if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering” (1 Corinthians 11:15 – NKJV).

Let all your skirts, all your dresses and all your blouses, all your shoes and all your stockings be modest. Wear long skirts without vents, which cover all your legs; wear long-sleeved blouses. Dress in a way worthy of the Gospel, so that you may glorify God in your body as the Scripture commands. And the Lord will delight in you and will honor you.

I conclude by telling you the following things. Be careful how you adorn yourselves, sisters in the Lord, for your outward appearance is important to your testimony. If you adorn yourselves the way the Scripture commands you to do (and you do also the other things the Scripture commands you to do), the name of the Lord will be glorified in you and you in Him, and the faith in the Gospel you profess will be supported and honored by your holy conduct. But if you adorn yourselves like the daughters of this world, following the fashion of this world, your testimony will be weakened and the name of the Lord will be blasphemed because of your outrageous way of dressing. Know this, that all those pastors who teach that you can dress how you like are not pursuing what is good for you.

 

 

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